Compassion is as simple as fetching a cup of tea, helping negotiate a baby buggy down a flight of stairs to helping someone put away a pop up tent instead of laughing at the comedy act J – it is a gentle hand that may invite the feedback of “you’re an angel”.
Yet it is more than that– it is being able to connect and think when someone grumps out of turn and ask – “what is going on to make you like this” then manage the situation to get the best from that person, it is about getting that life is not all roses all of the time for anyone, and that most of all if you are having a bad day – there is someone out there a day you would prefer not to experience. Not that you should dive into pity for every persons suffering, but be mindful that everyone has their story that has moulded their behaviour – be it right or wrong.
When you are able to really understand this idea, you are able to accept who a person is, and also start to see the world through their eyes, appreciating why they may judge or act the way they do – because of how the world looks to them. This of course does not make them right, but rather helps you reach out and point out your perspective to them in a manner that is easy for them to understand (and It may also help you better understand your subconscious reactions too).
By identifying with someone, we are able to unite more as one, showing loving forgiveness to each other, enabling us to reach out to each other.
Be compassionate to yourself and others – you are not meant to think just of others, rather think of yourself with loving kindness too. You need to recognise when to rest and be kind to yourself about the decision. You need to love yourself enough to switch the internet off and go to bed at a reasonable time, knowing you will be more efficient in the morning, and be able to say “I am a great person” rather than berating yourself for not finishing the ironing last night. It is about forgiving yourself for forgetting to order the garlic when doing the online shop – it is about letting go what really does not matter and focusing on what brings good into your life. You need to put your life jacket on before you can help others with theirs – so always be compassionate to yourself and others – if you do not experience compassion it is harder to show it.
Next time, in our last Reiki Article, we will pull it all together – in the meantime, enjoy practicing compassion.